Have you faced disappointment pursuing something that you feel called to do? If so, you are not alone. Thousands of people receive rejections every day. The key question is: What are you going to do about turning your rejections into acceptances?
Seeing thousands of people pursuing the same goal as you is daunting. Even seeing hundreds going after the same small piece of the pie is enough to make you turn around and run. And seeing people who you think are less qualified than you achieve their goals can be downright depressing.
But don’t give up!
Even when you see colleagues getting their dream positions, don’t give up.
Take an assessment of yourself, if you must. What are you lacking in education, in style, in appearance? Are you confident? When people first meet you, what is their opinion of you?
Women have it harder than men on all fronts. A man up for the same position can charm his way into the position, even though his credentials are not up to par. A woman will be judged by how she looks; her weight, her hair color, her posture, etc., even though she exceeds required educational qualifications, knows her stuff, and has stellar recommendations. A man with lesser qualifications can come in with his suit rumpled, disheveled hair , and get the contract. His unkempt appearance will be dismissed because he is perceived to be a scholar and a genius. Brilliant and gifted are other words that come to mind, whereas a woman not looking her best and even more brilliant and gifted will be perceived as careless, uncaring and not qualified.
Next time you are up for an important position, seek out a person you trust. Ask them to help you. Go over possible interview questions. Ask for tips about your appearance. Brush up on the skill of small talk. Make sure you are feeling at the top of your game on the day of the interview. Leave no stone unturned.
Never give up! Hold fast to your dream!
Many times positions in ministry have a lot to do with politics. Shore up your political game. Do not think you are above playing the political game. Find a mentor. Go to conventions, regional meetings, speak at conferences, write articles. In other words, get known!
Your dream is closer than you think! With a little tweaking, the dream you are dreaming is possible.
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